It really is okay…Honestly, it’s perfectly acceptable to be yourself. It’s alright to feel those emotions and think those thoughts… It’s understandable to lose your temper or feel that pain… It’s needed to grieve the loss and celebrate the victories. We are HUMAN… with human emotions, and human needs, and a human ego. So you are going to make mistakes, feel emotional pain, and do things that you realize weren’t the best option…But you are also going to have victories, feel elation, and realize that you are good. The key is to realize that we all go through the same things because we are all human…the experiences may be different but the effects on our minds, bodies, and souls are the same. You must learn to acknowledge our human qualities, accept them for just being a human experience, and forgive any negative that may have been felt. When you can do this, then you will move on with peace in your life.
It becomes easy to understand, accept, and forgive others. Now here’s the hard part…YOU MUST UNDERSTAND, ACCEPT, AND FORGIVE YOURSELF!!! You are human too. So you lost your temper…accept that fact and think about why you lost your temper, then forgive your yourself because you are human and you are allowed to have that experience. Okay, it’s been a year and you are still grieving… not everyone grieves the same way. Strive to understand your emotions and come to terms with them…become your own friend, that someone you can trust with your emotions. You got that big promotion and you were celebrating, but now you feel guilty for it… accomplishments are worth acknowledgment. You must realize that you are worth the elation and celebration. If your parent, or child, or best friend were in these situations, I’m sure you would understand and help them accept it and move on… So why are you any different? You also deserve the patience and love to accept it and move on. Treat yourself with the same kindness that you offer to any other person in this world.
Do you stay angry at your your mom for showing up at your house needing to talk, but in the process, ruining the busy schedule and deadlines that you have… No, you don’t. You say, “This must be something really important to her…she doesn’t know that I have a busy day.” …and you make the appropriate calls, rearrange your schedule, and listen to her story. Do you stay angry at your child for breaking that expensive vase that sits in the corner of the room…no, you don’t. You say, “he wasn’t thinking… he didn’t know it would break.” …and you box away the family heirlooms or stop buying expensive breakables. Do you stay angry at your best friend for backing out of your movie night… no, you don’t. You say, “something important must have come up, or…she must have needed a break, or… well, that’s just who she is.” …and you either call to see if she needs to talk, or you schedule back-up plans, or you learn to enjoy your own company for the evening. The point is, you’ve accepted and forgave and then moved on with your life… You didn’t dwell in the right/wrong or good/bad of the situation. Now it’s time to give yourself that same courtesy. Look at your life as if you were seeing it as the life of the person you love the most in this world… if you can be okay with them, then you should be okay with yourself. People like to say that they like their dog better than they like most human beings… But you forgive your dog when he chews up your favorite shoes, or poops on the carpet, or knocks over your drink ruining your laptop. If they gave that kind of courtesy to humans… they would like them too. It’s all in your mindset… give your dog a break, give other humans a break, give yourself a break…Allow yourself to experience all that it means to be human…and be okay with it…Understand, Accept, and Forgive.