Change is inevitable when you are learning and growing…
Have you ever had someone look at you with disgust and blame you for the failed relationship…Their reason being “You’ve Changed”? Well I have too. At first I was very insulted, my thoughts were “How could they be blaming me, I’m a good person. They’re the one who betrayed me!” But the truth is, I did change. I’m learning and growing and seeking a better happiness. I am now traveling down a road of discovering my soul.
In any relationship, you try to find a mate who shares your same values, goals, and beliefs. Many times you don’t factor in learning and growing and changing. Who thinks of those things when they are young and in love?!?! Society tells us to get married and raise a family…So often times we hurry to do just that. We ignore our instincts and our own goals in life so that we can conform to society and try for “The American Dream” What if that dream isn’t your dream? What if you want to live a little and discover who you are first before you find the perfect person to settle into life with?
I was a pleaser…but it was more than that…I also had little self confidence and I was afraid… I was afraid of disappointing my parents, I was afraid I couldn’t make it on my own, and I was afraid that I wasn’t good enough to find love. So I latched on to “The American Dream”. I don’t regret that decision. That is exactly what I needed to do at that time in my life… But here’s what happened…
I got out in the real world and I started to grow. Little by little, each year, I got more confidence in who I was. So yes, I changed!!! I no longer was that shy little girl who agreed with everything said, just to avoid an argument. I no longer went off and cried in the corner instead of sticking up for myself. I was no longer willing to sacrifice my happiness for the illusion of love. I learned, I grew, and I changed…and now I have found the beauty in who I am and the life I choose to live.
So remember, there is no blame…there is only change. If you want to be happy, you will embrace the change and grow from it. Life gives you exactly what you need at that point in your life…Be grateful and learn to evolve it into your own happiness.